Jump to content

Death

Akuji

By Akuji
in Deep and Meaningful

 Share

Recommended Posts

Mz Hyde Newbie

Mz Hyde

Posted
Posted

I have recently been faced with a lot of loss in my social circles. Two friends killed in a car accident, and one just didn't wake up one morning. I am over on their facebook pages reading people's comments and there is always a similar thing being said. My one buddy was a giant hulking guy, but the sweetest person you've ever met. The other could drink a water buffalo under the table. The last one was a chess master (We can't all have the cool hobbies ;)) It got me thinking, though. What do you hope friends and family say about you when your time comes? What would your obit say? I hope people say that I was a great mom (but mean it. everyone says the deceased were good parents), strong, and could belt it out at karaoke like no other. I want them to talk about my love for bacon and tacos and how I have affected their lives. What about you guys?

Link to comment
Share on other sites
  • Replies 199
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

Popular Days

Top Posters In This Topic

Popular Days

FatherAlabaster Grand Master

FatherAlabaster

Posted
Posted

I used to think about this when I was younger. Accepting my own mortality, counterintuitively, made it feel less important. I hope people will remember me through my music and my artwork. I want to do a lot more of it. If I died soon, and knew it was coming, I'd be upset with myself for all the paintings and songs I haven't done, and I'd fight to finish as much as I could. I hope my wife and son remember me with fondness; my son in particular has really given me something valuable to live for. (Of course I was just talking with my brother, and his son is an 8-year-old now, and he said he finally understands why Homer is always strangling Bart... so who knows. :D) I'm sorry to hear about your friends. I lost a few important people when I was a teenager - and then three of my grandparents when I was older - and I've never gotten over it. But it's good to me that I've been able to make art that deals with the loss, to try and understand it in a positive way, even if the art itself seems negative. I'm really just trying to forget about the future and think about what I can do right now.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
Iceni Newbie

Iceni

Posted
Posted

I agree, I would like my eulogy to be truthful. If my faults (and I have many) are going to come up I don't want people whitewashing them or pretending they didn't exist. If they're going to lament my death I'd rather they mourn me rather than an idealized, fictional version of me.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
Iceni Newbie

Iceni

Posted
Posted

As for how I'd like to be remembered...that's the choice of the people who knew me. My grandfather's eulogy, which my mom wrote, was pretty straightforward and heartfelt. It simply remembered things about him that my family, my mom in particular, loved. I would be honored to have such a eulogy.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
BlutAusNerd Newbie

BlutAusNerd

Posted
Posted

Re: What do you want people to say about you when you are gone? Maybe I'm just cynical, but when I'm dead, I'm dead, and I don't really care what happens. I told my wife to make sure they harvest any organs that will help people, since I won't be using them, but how I'm remembered, if at all, doesn't make much difference to me. I do think it's weird that people are buried in boxes though, I would prefer to not have my raw materials go to waste and be laid directly in the soil, under a sapling or in a garden or something, but I won't exactly be here to object whatever the decision is. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

Link to comment
Share on other sites
FatherAlabaster Grand Master

FatherAlabaster

Posted
Posted

That doesn't seem cynical, it's pragmatic. It's nice to think that people think well of us, but it's not as though we'll be attending our own funerals. Having said that, my parents are great, and they've given me a lot of wonderful memories of them. I think that's a real gift, and I hope to be able to pass on something similar to my son.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
  • 2 weeks later...
  • 2 weeks later...
BunsOnToast Newbie

BunsOnToast

Posted
Posted

I just hope that I'll be remembered. I just recently left everything behind, to chase what now seems to be a long gone dream. I dumped my girlfriend, quit school, quit my job, left all of my friends just to move back to a country that used to be my home. What did I gain? Now I'm sitting in my sisters apartment on my shitty computer saying "oh woe is me, why am I so lonely". Of course if I'm remembered I'd like to be remembered for who I am, just like Iceni said. I'd rather be remembered with my pros and cons, and with my adhd and depression. Even though with time memories are fabricated, which is inevitable, I'd like to be remembered as me. For who I am.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
Ghouly Newbie

Ghouly

Posted
Posted

One, Im really sorry for your loss Ms Hyde. I know what it feels like, recently a few of my friends died untimely deaths as well. Facebook gets so sad all at once. To be perfectly honest I have never in my life even considered this. I understand that the world goes on after we die, but I don't think I've ever been interested in the topic at hand. I think I'm more preoccupied with the technology and change that I'll miss out on rather than what people thought of me. I've always formed an idea in my mind that once I die, consciousness ends, there's nothing more. (if there is more, hey, bonus! but I'm not hung up on it). Because of that, my brain just doesn't really travel to these kinds of musings. People could say I was a douchebag and it wouldn't really matter. How I would like people to perceive me now (and hopefully when I'm gone) is that I'm a firebrand and a free spirit, with a big heart. That'd be enough for me.

Link to comment
Share on other sites
Ghouly Newbie

Ghouly

Posted
Posted

Re: What do you want people to say about you when you are gone?

If Iceni keeps on about how "reserved" you are IRL' date=' this won't happen. You need to do some damage control pronto. :D[/quote'] Like I said, I let the crazy out with progressive disclosure! ;)
Link to comment
Share on other sites
  • 1 month later...
Guest
This topic is now closed to further replies.
 Share
Go to topic listing

  • Join Metal Forum

    joinus-home.jpg

  • Our picks

    • Sacred Reich "Awakening"

      MacabreEternal posted a blog entry in Album Reviews,

      Whichever tier of thrash metal you consigned Sacred Reich back in the 80's/90's they still had their moments.  "Ignorance" & "Surf Nicaragura" did a great job of establishing the band, whereas "The American Way" just got a little to comfortable and accessible (the title track grates nowadays) for my ears.  A couple more records better left forgotten about and then nothing for twenty three years.  2019 alone has now seen three releases from Phil Rind and co.  A live EP, a split EP with Iron Reagan and now a full length.

      Notable addition to the ranks for the current throng of releases is former Machine Head sticksman, Dave McClean.  Love or hate Machine Head, McClean is a more than capable drummer and his presence here is felt from the off with the opening and title track kicking things off with some real gusto.  'Divide & Conquer' and 'Salvation' muddle along nicely, never quite reaching any quality that would make my balls tingle but comfortable enough.  The looming build to 'Manifest Reality' delivers a real punch when the song starts proper.  Frenzied riffs and drums with shots of lead work to hold the interest.


      There's a problem already though (I know, I am such a fucking mood hoover).  I don't like Phil's vocals.  I never had if I am being honest.  The aggression to them seems a little forced even when they are at their best on tracks like 'Manifest Reality'.  When he tries to sing it just feels weak though ('Salvation') and tracks lose real punch.  Give him a riffy number such as 'Killing Machine' and he is fine with the Reich engine (probably a poor choice of phrase) up in sixth gear.  For every thrashy riff there's a fair share of rock edged, local bar act rhythm aplenty too.

      Let's not poo-poo proceedings though, because overall I actually enjoy "Awakening".  It is stacked full of catchy riffs that are sticky on the old ears.  Whilst not as raw as perhaps the - brilliant - artwork suggests with its black and white, tattoo flash sheet style design it is enjoyable enough.  Yes, 'Death Valley' & 'Something to Believe' have no place here, saved only by Arnett and Radziwill's lead work but 'Revolution' is a fucking 80's thrash heyday throwback to the extent that if you turn the TV on during it you might catch a new episode of Cheers!

      3/5
      • 5

        Reputation Points

      • 10 replies
      MacabreEternal

      Picked By

      MacabreEternal,

    • Immortal Bird "Thrive on Neglect"

      MacabreEternal posted a blog entry in Album Reviews,

      I
      • 1

        Reputation Points

      • 2 replies
      MacabreEternal

      Picked By

      MacabreEternal,

    • Vltimas 'Something Wicked Marches In'

      MacabreEternal posted a blog entry in Album Reviews,

      https://www.metalforum.com/blogs/entry/52-vltimas-something-wicked-marches-in/
      • 3

        Reputation Points

      • 3 replies
      MacabreEternal

      Picked By

      MacabreEternal,

    • Candlemass "The Door to Doom"

      MacabreEternal posted a blog entry in Album Reviews,


      https://www.metalforum.com/blogs/entry/48-candlemass-the-door-to-doom/
      • 3

        Reputation Points

      • 2 replies
      MacabreEternal

      Picked By

      MacabreEternal,

    • Overkill "The Wings of War"

      MacabreEternal posted a blog entry in Album Reviews,

      Full length number 19 from overkill certainly makes a splash in the energy stakes, I mean there's some modern thrash bands that are a good two decades younger than Overkill who can only hope to achieve the levels of spunk that New Jersey's finest produce here.  That in itself is an achievement, for a band of Overkill's stature and reputation to be able to still sound relevant four decades into their career is no mean feat.  Even in the albums weaker moments it never gets redundant and the energy levels remain high.  There's a real sense of a band in a state of some renewed vigour, helped in no small part by the addition of Jason Bittner on drums.  The former Flotsam & Jetsam skinsman is nothing short of superb throughout "The Wings of War" and seems to have squeezed a little extra out of the rest of his peers.

      The album kicks of with a great build to opening track "Last Man Standing" and for the first 4 tracks of the album the Overkill crew stomp, bash and groove their way to a solid level of consistency.  The lead work is of particular note and Blitz sounds as sneery and scathing as ever.  The album is well produced and mixed too with all parts of the thrash machine audible as the five piece hammer away at your skull with the usual blend of chugging riffs and infectious anthems.  


      There are weak moments as mentioned but they are more a victim of how good the strong tracks are.  In it's own right "Distortion" is a solid enough - if not slightly varied a journey from the last offering - but it just doesn't stand up well against a "Bat Shit Crazy" or a "Head of a Pin".  As the album draws to a close you get the increasing impression that the last few tracks are rescued really by some great solos and stomping skin work which is a shame because trimming of a couple of tracks may have made this less obvious. 

      4/5
      • 0

        Reputation Points

      • 4 replies
      MacabreEternal

      Picked By

      MacabreEternal,
    View All
×
×
  • Create New...