What's on your mind?

[Iceni]

she'll still be exposed to a lot of Papists...

I wanna make a pedo joke so bad here, but it's so cliche...

[BlutAusNerd]

Re: What's on your mind?

And this is really hitting home for me.

Work can and should give day to day satisfaction, but is far from any kind of meaning or purpose to life. I feel lucky because I like what I do and can take pride in being really good at it, but even then it's merely a means to an end. What is that end? I don't really know. I don't consider myself a person of long term goals, I like to tackle my problems as they come and not worry about those that haven't arrived yet, so I don't know what the future has in store for me. I don't know how it is to be someone else, so this could just be me, but most of my fulfillment comes from self-cultivation and being happy with I am as opposed to the circumstances I'm surrounded by. Much of what I experience is in the realm of what I can't change, so placing more importance on my personal growth and relationships is something that I can control, and know that I am doing well at. It won't matter at the end of my life what I have done for work, just that I was satisfied with it at the time, and it paid bills and allowed me to do other things that I wanted to do. I know that this is different for everyone, but to me, life is not in my deeds and location, which may be why I've been able to live in a place that I hate in many ways (but do sincerely love in just a few other ways) without going nuts. I don't pretend (at least I don't think I do) to be "enlightened", or have a grasp on much, but I find myself oddly content much of the time because of these feelings, despite a general feeling of disgust with much of my environment. It doesn't matter much where I am, I'm just a temporary dweller in this world, and having the temporal shit of this existence rule my life isn't an option for me (not saying it is to you, just speaking generally). I'm sure that other locations would suit my interests more than this one, but I've never felt "at home" in this life. Hope this didn't make things worse, I don't mean to be pessimistic, it just seems to come naturally to me. Again, I wish you the best of luck with whatever you end up pursuing. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

[RelentlessOblivion]

I'm starting to feel like sweeping changes to my life are in order. I've become complacent, and therefore, lazy. I could have used my time off uni to do many things but really outside of the cycling training and keeping up my guitar playing I haven't done a thing. The problem I'm now facing is that I'm so stuck in a rut I can't figure out where to start.

[FatherAlabaster]

The problem I'm now facing is that I'm so stuck in a rut I can't figure out where to start.

Yes... how dare you waste your time studying for a law degree, learning to play music, and training for a competitive sport, when you could actually be doing something productive! ...Honestly, how you feel is how I feel when I'm not involved in some viable artistic project. I've started writing more music and I have some painting ideas, but when I'm not working on something big, I feel like a worthless piece of shit. There's no logic in it, but it's undeniable. I'm glad that I love doing things that are a continual challenge, anyway. To respond a little to what BAN said - like I already mentioned, I've only realized how little my previous job(s) meant to me after a little bit of time away. In its own way, it's been a real boon. It's been a good opportunity for me to figure what I actually do care about. And now I'm filled with a desire to make something out of that, whereas before, I had money coming in, and I couldn't see my way past the daily trials of my job. I didn't know how much it was taking out of me.

[RelentlessOblivion]

I like to take a short break when I finish my exams for the year, trouble is this year that short break made me complacent and I didn't get around to any of the things I wanted to do like take a summer class in literature.

[FatherAlabaster]

I didn't get around to any of the things I wanted to do like take a summer class in literature.

That's ok, buddy, summer is still months away!

[RelentlessOblivion]

For you lot perhaps, the day it averages 40 degrees celsius in winter down here is the day I find another country to live in I stumbled across a Burn Your World song a few weeks ago by accident. Now that I'm actually trying to find that song I can't. I hate when this happens.

[FatherAlabaster]

They're on Bandcamp, though I don't think the new stuff is up yet.

[RelentlessOblivion]

I'm trying to find a youtube video to show my friend that not all metalcore is awful, don't know if you can link things on bandcamp like you can for youtube on facebook.

[~Mere~]

Is it really hypocritical to wear a band shirt of a band you don't listen to. I'm wearing a 25 year anniversary Cinderella shirt even though I don't listen to them. It was cheap or free, cannot recall. I have quite a few actually that I wear and don't support the band. I know there are a lot of diff opinions on this, I was just curious.

[Iceni]

Is it really hypocritical to wear a band shirt of a band you don't listen to?

It's misleading but not ethically reprehensible unless you're one of these 'metal chick' types who use band shirts to hook quick lays. Luckily, I'm immune to their charms since they've never even heard of the bands I like...

[~Mere~]

It's misleading but not ethically reprehensible unless you're one of these 'metal chick' types who use band shirts to hook quick lays. Luckily' date=' I'm immune to their charms since they've never even heard of the bands I like...[/quote'] Ummm yeah I'm def not nor ever have been one of those types. I too frown upon chicks who do shit like that. What should keep you immune is the thought of catching a disease.

[Iceni]

What should keep you immune is the thought of catching a disease.

I would consider an aversion to prog a kind of disease, I suppose...

[~Mere~]

I would consider an aversion to prog a kind of disease' date= I suppose...

[BlutAusNerd]

Re: What's on your mind?

Is it really hypocritical to wear a band shirt of a band you don't listen to. I'm wearing a 25 year anniversary Cinderella shirt even though I don't listen to them. It was cheap or free' date=' cannot recall. I have quite a few actually that I wear and don't support the band. I know there are a lot of diff opinions on this, I was just curious.[/quote'] My wife wears plenty of my band shirts, and usually gets one of her own when she comes to shows with me, but she doesn't like the music. It just reminds her of me and/or a fun time we had together. I wear my band because I like the band and the art/logos, but I don't think it's required. There are plenty of bands that I love, but wouldn't wear their artwork on me, doesn't make me like their music less or vice versa. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

[~Mere~]

My wife wears plenty of my band shirts, and usually gets one of her own when she comes to shows with me, but she doesn't like the music. It just reminds her of me and/or a fun time we had together. I wear my band because I like the band and the art/logos, but I don't think it's required. There are plenty of bands that I love, but wouldn't wear their artwork on me, doesn't make me like their music less or vice versa. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

Awww that is so sweet and endearing of your wife I hear ya on some bands artwork, it's like they had to cut corners somewhere. I've accumulated a lot of shirts and feel that even if I don't necessarily listen to the band I'm supporting the scene, I guess you can say. But no one would really know unless they asked.

[BlutAusNerd]

Re: What's on your mind?

Awww that is so sweet and endearing of your wife I hear ya on some bands artwork, it's like they had to cut corners somewhere. I've accumulated a lot of shirts and feel that even if I don't necessarily listen to the band I'm supporting the scene, I guess you can say. But no one would really know unless they asked.

She's the best, musically our only common interests are artists like Pink Floyd, Johnny Cash, Frank Sinatra, etc..., but she's come to see my doom/death metal band play at a bunch of shitty venues with a bunch of shitty local bands. As far as artwork, I wasn't referring to cutting corners so much as really tacky, cheesy, and/or flashy artwork. I love cool designs, but I hate wearing anything that's too busy/showy. I'm not really an outgoing guy, and my clothes tend to match that. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

[Ghouly]

She's the best' date=' musically our only common interests are artists like Pink Floyd, Johnny Cash, Frank Sinatra[/quote'] I almost can't even imagine what it's like to be married to someone who doesn't share the majority of my musical interests. Music is such a huuuuge part of my life. As for what's on my mind, I start dance classes tomorrow! I'm really excited. I'll be learning Jamaican dancehall, which is a kingston club style dance with a blend of west african-haitian influces. It's really energetic, silly, and fun. I love dancehall (music) as well as ragga and riddim. Sorta have a feeling this class will kick my ass but that's what I'm aiming for and dance is one of the best ways to build fast-twitch muscle.

[BlutAusNerd]

Re: What's on your mind?

I almost can't even imagine what it's like to be married to someone who doesn't share the majority of my musical interests. Music is such a huuuuge part of my life.

I guess I'm used to it. I grew up in Salt Lake City, UT, the only friends I had that were into metal were the ones I introduced to it, and the only people I talk metal with IRL are band mates. It can be tough, but she's totally supportive, even encouraging me to buy MDF tickets because I haven't been able to go in previous years. She arranged it so that I could see Exodus and Kreator on the first day of our honeymoon as a stopover on the way to our final destination, we had a blast. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

[JBaker]

I guess I'm used to it. I grew up in Salt Lake City, UT, the only friends I had that were into metal were the ones I introduced to it, and the only people I talk metal with IRL are band mates. It can be tough, but she's totally supportive, even encouraging me to buy MDF tickets because I haven't been able to go in previous years. She arranged it so that I could see Exodus and Kreator on the first day of our honeymoon as a stopover on the way to our final destination, we had a blast. Sent from my HTC PH39100 using Tapatalk 2

I definitely get this. None of my mates are really into metal or music at all, for that matter, but I don't think I could ever 'get used' to it. My mates stop over, we play videogames and watch films, but by the next day I'm literally itching to get back to my music! I went for a few drinks with some people I've recently met who do share my musical interests, and it was such a refreshing thing. I couldn't imagine actually living day-in, day-out with a partner who didn't share my musical interests. It'd drive me crazy pretty quickly. Then again, I am only 19 so can hardly speak from experience. I just can't imagine it. At least she goes lengths to support your interest, though, which must count for something.

[Parker]

Going to get a long overdue haircut and beard trim today. Since I'm loosing my hair on top I tend to keep it very short. Few things look as pathetic as a balding guy with long hair.

[FatherAlabaster]

Wow, that is awesome! We had a nice honeymoon, but nothing remotely metal... my wife is a bit like yours, though she actually does enjoy metal when she's in the right mood. We share a hatred for most of the pop garbage we hear on the radio. The metal community was bigger where I grew up, but I was the only really interested listener in my circle of friends. I actually never got on well with most of the "metal" people, with a couple exceptions. But I've also seen metal become more socially acceptable than it was when I was a kid. It's more respected by people who aren't into it, and it seems easier to find people who are into it casually.

[FatherAlabaster]

The other thing I'd say to Ghouly is that, even hypothetically, I don't know if I'd want to be married to someone who shared so much of my interest. I need my space. I can go into my room and work on stuff, she can put a Mumford And Sons station on Pandora, and we're both happy. That also keeps me from getting stuck in a rut with what I listen to.

[JBaker]

The other thing I'd say to Ghouly is that' date=' even hypothetically, I don't know if I'd want to be married to someone who shared so much of my interest. I need my space. I can go into my room and work on stuff, she can put a Mumford And Sons station on Pandora, and we're both happy. That also keeps me from getting stuck in a rut with what I listen to.[/quote'] I think there is a certain balance to be struck. Yes, it could get a little boring if your interests and musical tastes are identical, but I definitely agree with Ghouly in that I reckon I'd find having a partner whom I have so little in common musically hard work, to say the least.

[Atrocity]

As for what's on my mind, I start dance classes tomorrow! I'm really excited. I'll be learning Jamaican dancehall, which is a kingston club style dance with a blend of west african-haitian influces. It's really energetic, silly, and fun. I love dancehall (music) as well as ragga and riddim. Sorta have a feeling this class will kick my ass but that's what I'm aiming for and dance is one of the best ways to build fast-twitch muscle.

That sounds awesome! I've been wanting to take dancing classes for years now but I don't want to do it alone I've always imagined ending up with a metal fan, but it seems I'm stuck with a rapper My bf listen to rap and classical music (not that hip hop shit you hear on MTV, but those that make some sense) but for now it's working out pretty well. He taught me a lot about about the more 'underground' rap music and there are some artist that I like. I also taught him a lot about metal and there are bands that he likes, so at the end we do have some artist in common. He also told me he would go with me on any metal concert I would like to go and I would accompany him on rap concerts. He is very open minded and when I find a band that I like I can show him and he will see the video and tell me his opinion, he helps me order CDs and lets me know if there are any concerts near our town. I guess if you support each other in everything, music is no exception.