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Just to chime in my 2 cents. Just be yourself. Be honest with your folks about what you find interesting about the music and how it positively impacts you. There's a lot worse things in the world than being a metal head, but it is a widely misunderstood community by those not involved in it. It looks scary and dangerous from the outside. As an uninitiated parent, I'd probably be concerned too. Parents generally want their kids to be safe, happy, and successful. So the key to getting them to accept things they don't like is to show how that things helps you meet those targets. Jono's idea of giving them "softball" examples of the music so they can see that it's not scary is a great one. I remember my mom being terrified of AC/DC, Def Leppard, and Judas Priest back in the early 80's. Once I actually got her to listen to a few songs by them, she didn't see what all the fuss was about. Just don't start them out with Satanic Warmaster or Archgoat. On the topic of overly zealous religious parents, I grew up in a house like that. I did cut contact with them for a number of years for various reasons including religion. I reconnected to some degree with my mom a few years ago. She's not quite the same level of crazy as when I was coming up, but there were a lot of things behind the scenes that I was never aware of. We just agree not to discuss religion. I'm happy with what I believe, she's happy with hers. We're both adults and free to make up our own minds. My wife and I believe different things, ascribe to different political ideas, and are interested in vastly different pursuits. We find common ground in that we love and care for each other. Even if I harshly disagree with something she believes, it doesn't change my view of her. She's still the person I love. I can say the same about my daughter who is also an adult and believes things I just can't wrap my head around. Something I would add is that as a parent, when your child gets to the point where you are (an adult no longer living with the family), there is a lot of fear about what they are going to be exposed to in the world. The good, the bad, the pitfalls...and the lack of control to keep them safe is terrifying. I think religion in this sense is the easy way to approach the traditional parent-teen conflict, but I suspect that fear of the unknown for the child is the real cause. Being able to accept that you can no longer control what goes into your child's world and that they have the authority to set their own course in life is difficult to accept. And I'm not saying child in this case to you in any way, but I guarantee that it's exactly how your family view you in this situation.

The amount of music released/available today is overwhelming. Trying to keep up with all of the new releases each year leaves no room to truly evaluate new music or return to old favorites if you actually try to have a life in there somewhere. When I was on the hamster wheel, I found the vast majority of new metal being released in C grade or worse. Even if it caught my attention and my dollars at the time, I've never returned to it. I blame myself for buying too much crap, but I also think that most bands could/would benefit from working with a label that would help them filter the chaff from the wheat and edit their "masterpiece" to something digestible. Also, there are only a handful of bands that have been around more than 20 years that I would want to hear new music from. Most of those would never release another album.

The Cure - 4:13 Dream Les Claypool & The Holy Mackerel - Highball With the Devil King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Nonagan Infinity - just got tickets for these guys at the end of the month King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Flying Microtonal Banana Torche - Meanderthal - seeing these guys Friday night Torche - In Return Torche - Admission Naxatras - Naxatras Luna Cruise - Sand Reckoner

Miles Davis - Round About Midnight

Punk-o-rama 3 - Epitaph comp Punk-o-rama 4 - Epitaph comp

It's a burden I'm willing to bear...

Server is acting up to day. Not refreshing new music I've loaded recently. Bummer. Oh well, I will make choices from what's available from the buffet. The Cure - Faith Rush - Permanent Waves The Wraith - Shadow Flag EP Opeth - Blackwater Park Sepultura - Beneath the Remains Orannsi Pazuzu - Farmakologinen EP

16 & 17 were great years. I lost my lists for those years a while back when I upgraded my computer, but a few I remember I haven't seen mentioned: Chthe'ilist - Le Denier Crepsucle Circle of Ouroborus - Kotiinpaluu & Ruumistähdet Oranssi Pazuzu - Värähtelijä Blood Incantation - Starspawn Tomb Mold - Primordial Malignity Witch Vomit - Poisoned Blood Sielunvihollinen - Ruhonkantaja Immolation - Atonement - tops for me in 17 Akercocke - Renaissance in Extremis Succumb - s/t Svartsyn - In Death Teitanblood - Accursed Skin EP Antichrist Siege Machine - Morbid Triumph Martyrdöd - List - I'm pretty sure this topped my, ahem, list in 16 Nightbringer - Terra Damnata

Mission of Burma - Vs. Bad Religion - Stranger Than Fiction - so hooray for me...and fuck you

Bill Steer starting to look a bit like David Carradine these days. Rode an elevator with Bill and his wife/girlfriend in Vegas back in August. Super nice folks. We were laughing about some chick (obviously an escort) puking her guts out in a trash can of a $300/night hotel while her "John" held her hair. I would agree that he's got a Carradine thing going.

Rush - Grace Under Pressure Live

Autopsy - Morbidity Triumphant - dig it.

James Gang - Rides Again 1970

Since I've slipped into the southern rock rabbit hole... The Outlaws - Live at the Capitol Theater 1978 The Marshall Tucker Band - Live at the Sam Houston Coliseum 1975 The Allman Brothers - Live at the Fillmore East 1970

I know dude gets plenty of well deserved shit, but man I fucking love Cosmic Church.

Molly Hatchet - s/t Molly Hatchet - Flirtin' With Disaster

Blue Cheer - Blue Cheer

Full album stream for the second "new" Circle of Ouroborus release, Thurisa. This album is actually made of songs around 10 years old, so it's much more in the vein of Eleven Fingers/The Final Egg than the last few albums. Good stuff.

The new one's not bad either, but Life Sentence is better.

I definitely dig some Hatchett, just haven't pulled any off the shelf in quite some time. Maybe dig some out later today.

Damn. I missed both of these. I've been slipping like crazy this year.

I've seen Razor a couple times in the past few years. They're fun live, but not sure I'm interested in new music from them, but I might check it out. That new Autopsy though...it's banging as my daughter would say. They're also fun live, just don't go in the pit without protection... Random server day. Always entertaining to see what it spits out for a playlist. Salem's Bend - Supercluster (2019) The Cure - Japanese Whispers (1983) Rush - Clockwork Angels (2012) In Flames - Colony (2004) King Gizzard & The Lizard Wizard - Nonagon Infinity (2016) Mayhem - De Mysteriis Dom Sathanas (1994)

In theory anyway. What happens in the states anyway is that people just go deeper in debt. The term "live within your means" isn't in the vocabulary of the majority of Americans. Interest rate hikes also don't deter corporations from buying up single-family homes at prices above what the average person would pay for them. Which still makes home ownership impossible for most. Interest rate hikes also don't deter companies from raising their prices indiscriminately in the never ending search for increasing profits. Capitalism - the gift that keeps on giving, or the perfect trap depending on how you look at it.

Sun Ra - In the Orbit of Ra Birth - Born

Definitely a fine line. Playing with fire is always fun for a little while.