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    navybsn given a Damn from Serpentboi1992 in What Are You Listening To?   
    I know it's a rather unpopular opinion, but I actually like Reinkaos. All the kvlt kids love to shit on that album because it's not Storm or The Somberlain pt 2.
  2. Horns
    navybsn gave a Damn to Serpentboi1992 in What Are You Listening To?   
    nothing at the moment. but earlier, i was listening to these



  3. Haha
    navybsn gave a Damn to BMB in What's on your mind?   
    I’m offended that you think that marriage and children are the only things that qualify you for this group of miserable 40+ year old men!😂
  4. Horns
    navybsn gave a Damn to GoatmasterGeneral in What's on your mind?   
    As someone who has done the 'just dump everything and go my own way' thing a decade ago I have to say while it hasn't worked out as well for me as I would have hoped for obvious reasons, it definitely has not turned out as badly as it could have either. Even considering the adversities I've faced and the challenges of single fatherhood I still wouldn't want to go back to where I was at in my pre-dump life given the choice. I felt in my late 40's like I had painted myself into a corner with my poor/questionable/regretable life choices and something simply had to give. I'd probably choose to break out of my stagnant life somewhat differently if I had it all to do over again, but I'm still glad I got off my lazy ass and did something about it and made a change.
    After living through several long term relationships, all entered into with the thought that each was "the one," I am no longer of the belief that a single monogamous lifelong partnership is a natural or truly healthy state of being for most humans, be they men or women or whatever. I'm not sure why this is still considered the norm, or at least held up as the goal in life. I guess it's because two parent family units are the best situation in which to raise our kids, at least from the kids' perspective anyway, and despite the approximately 199 available methods of birth control these pesky ankle biters do have an insidious way of making their way into the world whether they're planned or wanted or not. I suppose it comes down to most men's proclivity to put work and career over family. Most men are hard wired this way and it's the way our entire western society has been set up from go. The tug-of-war in our minds happens because our women and indeed society in general demand that men be good providers, but then they don't seem to be able to understand what goes into all that providing because at the same time they turn around and want to shame us for not prioritizing being there enough and being nurturing enough and being hands-on enough with our families. Unfortunately this guilts millions of decent, caring, hard working men into feeling like they are inadequate or even abject failures as husbands and fathers. 
    It's amazing to me how universal it is that so many middle aged adults go down this career-marriage-children path and by our 40's so many of us are apparently quite miserable with our 'lot in life' and where we've ended up. We all start out with our various hopes and dreams that may or may not be realistic or attainable but despite many folks' best laid plans I think life has a way of just happening to a lot of people and many of us find ourselves hanging on for the ride more than actually steering the ship. I agree with Navy that to a certain extent the willingness and ability to accept or even embrace one's lot in life inevitably comes with age, or seasoning, as by our mid 40's we're no longer 'young dumb and full of cum' and most of us have seen for ourselves watching friends, family and colleagues that the grass is not always greener on the other side. And aslo because after many years I think we tend to become numb to our discontent and we learn to ignore and compartmentalize it. 
    But still quite clearly what I'm reading here and also seeing off the board with many of my 40&50-something male friends is that it's totally normal to have regrets and what-if's and some underlying level of discontentment. This is true even of dudes who I'd consider fairly well adjusted and successful and manage to project some level of contentment to the world most of the time. Men push through things, it's in our nature. Most of the time we can set aside the distractions and supress the doubts and what-ifs and nagging bad feelings when we have to and just focus on the task at hand. We need to have this ability in order to provide, survive and thrive. But it's ok to stop and reflect and just let ourselves feel it sometimes. Or even to commiserate with our peers and share our regrets and feelings of discontentment now and then. Fuck what anyone else thinks.
  5. Horns
    navybsn given a Damn from MacabreEternal in What's on your mind?   
  6. Haha
    navybsn gave a Damn to Dead1 in What's on your mind?   
    Navy, I literally can't press play on that video lest it get stuck in my head for the next month!  
  7. Horns
    navybsn given a Damn from Thatguy in What Are You Listening To?   
    Anouar Brahem - Blue Maqams (another excellent T-Guy suggestion)
    Rabih Abou-Khalil ‎– Blue Camel
     
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    navybsn given a Damn from Dead1 in What's on your mind?   
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    navybsn given a Damn from FatherAlabaster in What's on your mind?   
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    navybsn gave a Damn to MarkhantonioYeatts in What Are You Listening To?   
    R.A.M.B.O. - Bring It
    R.A.M.B.O. - Wall Of Death The System
    POISON IDEA - Confuse And Conquer
    ....POISON IDEA is just so fucking cool.....
  11. Horns
    navybsn gave a Damn to Thatguy in What Are You Listening To?   
    For some reason I had decided I didn't like these guys, but I actually picked this one up and I agree with Navy.
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    navybsn gave a Damn to MacabreEternal in What Are You Listening To?   
    Promo tracks/singles kind of drifted by me when I had them on stream so yet to dip my toe in on the whole album.  Found a belated fondness for this atmo/Cascadian bm in the past few months so may well be the best time to sample it before I go off on another tangent.
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    navybsn given a Damn from Thatguy in What Are You Listening To?   
    Chill this morning with a lot of overcast and periodic heavy rains. Some flooding around the area, but we very fortunately missed the majority of Ida's wrath.
    Makaya McCraven - In The Moment - thanks T-Guy for this suggestion. It's excellent.
     
  14. Horns
    navybsn given a Damn from Thatguy in What Are You Listening To?   
    Wolves in the Throne Room - Primordial Arcana. Not half bad. Sound/production is quite good.
     
  15. Haha
    navybsn gave a Damn to MacabreEternal in What band is this?   
    Really?
    It's Nocturnus.
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    navybsn given a Damn from MacabreEternal in What Are You Listening To?   
    Judas Iscariot - Of Great Eternity
    Judas Iscariot - Under the Black Sun
    Escotrilihum - Urionhsol
     
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    navybsn gave a Damn to MarkhantonioYeatts in What Are You Listening To?   
    CHET BAKER TRIO - Live From The Moonlight
     
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    navybsn given a Damn from GoatmasterGeneral in What Are You Listening To?   
    Judas Iscariot - Of Great Eternity
    Judas Iscariot - Under the Black Sun
    Escotrilihum - Urionhsol
     
  19. Confused
    navybsn gave a Damn to Dead1 in What Are You Listening To?   
    Cancer - To The Gory End
    Def Leppard - Hysteria - yes it does stick out in this company.
    Immolation - Dawn of Possession
    Venom - Prime Evil
     
    Back when I was a radio presenter I had two local black metallers (from Nuclear Winter and Vrag) on my show and they were seriously arguing whether Judas Iscariot was mainstream or not. 
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    navybsn given a Damn from Thatguy in Does anyone here like jazz music?   
    Ended up buying this after spinning it a couple of times today. Good rec.
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    navybsn given a Damn from Thatguy in Does anyone here like jazz music?   
    I'll give it a try today. A more modern artist I like is Yaz Ahmed. This album made my top 10 in 2017.
    La Saboteuse
     
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    navybsn gave a Damn to markm in Does anyone here like jazz music?   
    I'm pretty standard -50's-70's classic jazz-lots of Coltrane, Miles and their sidemen, Chick Chorea, Herbie,  Art Blakey, Joe Henderson, Ornette Coleman etc. The big ones everyone likes. In recent history I like Pat Metheny and Brad Mehdlau. I don't go a whole lot deeper than that. I could easily listen to Miles and Coltrane for the rest of my life as far as Jazz goes and call it a day.
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    navybsn gave a Damn to markm in What Are You Listening To?   
    Convulse/World without God
    Inquisition/ Bloodshed Across the Empyrean Altar Beyond the Celestial Zennith
    Lingua Ignota-Sinner Get Ready
    Schoenberg/Pierre Boulez conducts-weird but surprisingly accessible avant garde choral music
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    navybsn given a Damn from TheUnholyOne in What Are You Listening To?   
    Ministry - Psalm 69
    A Mind is a terrible thing to taste
    Filth Pig
     
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    navybsn given a Damn from markm in What Are You Listening To?   
    Ministry - Psalm 69
    A Mind is a terrible thing to taste
    Filth Pig
     
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