I first told my family in 2007 that I thought it was time to stop the fanfare, no presents, except for the kids, presents stop when the kids get to 15 and zero expectations of meals, dressing up and anything more than a day of relaxing. My sister in law never agreed and it took until covid when my mum decided she'd had enough of cooking the feast because no one bothered to help clean up to actually have an effect. Since then we've done Chrissie lunch out and the rest of the day just relaxing and doing nothing. So much better for the mental health than what it used to be.