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  1. 2 minutes ago, KillaKukumba said:

    Professor GG posted a video for the whole class last week about whales. It's not going to be part of the final assessment, so don't worry about missing it, but from that video we all learnt that whales suck.

    Actually there was more to it than just whales sucking, but I've forgotten it now.

     

    sounds like you got the important bit 

  2. 2 hours ago, Thatguy said:

    But you can't hate something you don't believe in.

    This reminded me of this scene from a book I read a long time ago where a man and woman are arguing over opposing worldviews and she gets upset and starts pounding on his chest and crying, "I don't believe it I don't believe it", to which he replies, "What is it that you don't believe in?" She has no answer. 

     

    1 hour ago, FatherAlabaster said:

    New member signs up telling us how happy she is to finally be free of her religious upbringing and y'all spend two pages of her intro thread arguing about religion. Internet classic.

    hahaha I know where I am. I enjoyed it. 

    1 hour ago, RelentlessOblivion said:

    Alright folks let’s just move on because FA is right this thread probably wasn’t the appropriate place for the religious debate. Apologies to the OP if we’ve made you uncomfortable.

    No apologies necessary but I appreciate your consideration. I enjoy good conversation on any topic. 

    36 minutes ago, GoatmasterGeneral said:

    And I hope our new friend "heavymetaltreasure666" (the 666 is a nice touch, I approve) can forgive me for crapping on her intro thread.

    ;) maybe

    34 minutes ago, KillaKukumba said:

    Being an innocent party in all this I graciously accept your apology

    just because you're a mammal doesn't mean you can flop in and suck up all the hot air 

  3. I'm headed to bed so I'm not going to go through and respond to you all in kind as I was thinking I would reading through. 

    I will say that my direct experience is with the worst kinds of Christians, that do push their faith and judge and outcast you for not meeting their standards of salvation. What makes them worse even still is that they pretend that they are not these types of Christians. On top of that they were firmly evangelical. I spent most of my missions trips running the sound and taking care of the travel sick to avoid street preaching but I did end up in a bible college on track to be come a preacher, which is weird to me still but whatever. 

    After becoming so conditioned to at least be seen to be accepting of all of these) things, it is hard to see anyone leaning towards something that is so toxic in my own life. As cold hearted as I feel I have become, I do care about people and don't want to just watch them suffer. But everyone finds solace in different places. If it helps them to believe in the cross and all of the other that comes with it, then that's fine. As most of you have said, as long as it isn't being pushed on anyone, what's the harm. 

    Though, the point that these ideals seem to be running law and nations is what is more deeply problematic. This side of the church is a way to separate what is essentially the same evil, and those who are passively complicit are still complicit. Supporting the beast that eats you. 

    I find it hard to be around people who allow that willingly into their lives and see that the benefits outweigh the negatives. Humans need community, I get that. Personally, the negatives will always obliviate the positives. Even a lot of people (mostly gays and girls) who I know who were more passively religious had a hard time coping with what the church adds to the mental torment we are already under from the rest of the world. 

     

    Religion and spirituality are two vastly different subjects, and when I speak of Christianity I am most definitely referring to modern, mostly American, Republican Christianity unless stated otherwise. I would never judge someone for taking scripture to heart. As a part of my schooling, I basically had to write my own textbook on the bible. There is so much beauty and inspiration contained in ancient works and the bible is no exception. It can be incredibly powerful and inspirational. 

    I gravitate more towards lyrics. 

     

    Well, if it seems to be real, it's illusion
    For every moment of truth, there's confusion in life
    Love can be seen as the answer, but nobody bleeds for the dancer
    And it's on and on
    On and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on
     
    They say that life's a carousel
    Spinning fast, you've got to ride it well
    The world is full of kings and queens
    Who blind your eyes and steal your dreams
    It's Heaven and Hell, oh well
     
    And they'll tell you black is really white
    The moon is just the sun at night
    And when you walk in golden halls
    You get to keep the gold that falls
    It's Heaven and Hell, oh no
     
     
    And just to needlessly clarify, the infant is me. Am baby. 
  4. 1 minute ago, navybsn said:

    My daughter, who is now 24 and married, went through a lot of the same things you're mentioning more recently than I did. Of course, I had all of the same anxieties, we all did, but I use her as she is more generationally similar to you than I am. She used to watch a lot of old movies and idolized many of those classic stars along with her all-time favorite David Bowie. They were so cool. How can I be that cool dad? I'm worried that people won't like me, will make fun of me... Simply put, those people didn't give a shit what anyone else thought of them. That's what most adults figure out at some point in their lives, that it doesn't matter. Thinking along those lines is just a source of anxiety, and it is a great relief when you can just let that go.

    I don't really care about what other people think so much. I just have PTSD and don't feel authentic in who I am because I was taught it was wrong for such a long time. And not just wrong but inherently bad, and evil. I knew they were wrong but it fucks with your head. I was told I would never belong so now I don't. 

    I have actually never had a hard time meeting people when I actually go out and do things, but the anxiety is in the going and the doing, not the people. 

  5. 9 minutes ago, SurgicalBrute said:

    I think most of us understand that it's damn hard to put yourself out there...especially if you're an introvert by nature. Hell, even now, I know how much I still hate going into new situations with new people. It sounds like you're in school though, so in a lot ways that works to your advantage. You can commiserate about shitty teachers, shitty assignments, whatever...and if a conversation goes weird, hey...chances are you won't see them again next semester, so who gives a shit what they think. Cliche as it might be, that's the part to remember...it doesn't matter what others think about you. There's always new people to meet

    Online school lol and the social aspects of the classes do not appeal to me at all. I am impossible to deal with and a complete brat about my habits. I have done this to myself hahaha thankfully my anxiety is not rooted in caring what other people are thinking. 

    7 minutes ago, FatherAlabaster said:

    Maybe once you get a bit of practice in on guitar, you can find someone to jam with or join up with a group. You don't need to be an amazing player to get through a few songs and have a great time doing it. Playing music and making art have opened the doors to almost all of my adult friendships.

    i was just thinking earlier that i did connect with a few good people when i was younger through the little exposure i had to music. ptsd messing with my memory has made it hard to remember things "that truly bring me pleasure", as my therapist reminded me is a necessary thing. 

  6. 18 minutes ago, navybsn said:

    You will, just not likely through a computer or phone screen. Like Surge said above, just get out there and interact with the world. Touch grass as he mentioned. Surprising things happen when you put yourself out there. You find most people feel the same way you do. 

    Ahh if that were easy for me I likely wouldn't be here. Things are always changing maybe opportunities will open up soon. 

  7. 32 minutes ago, navybsn said:

    I've found over the years that it's good to have a few close friends with varied interests and a wider circle of acquaintances that you interact with for various interests. I'm lucky to have good friends that are into metal, but I only get to see them rarely (maybe 2-3 times a year). Others I may have certain things I engage with them on like an activity (golf or fishing buddies) or an interest (work). I like these people, but I'm not really interested in knowing the ins and outs of their lives. Honestly, the "metal" friends I am much closer too simply because they are some of the most open, accepting people I've ever met. Social media came along when I was almost 30. I have accounts, but don't engage except on rare occasions and only very briefly. I don't see much useful value in it other than a time waster other than a way to find out about upcoming shows/events.

    I never actively seek to make friends and could be perfectly fine without anyone to share with outside of my wife, but it just happens organically over time. I'm almost 50, so lots of people move through your life in that time. I can't even remember half the people I hung out with 25-30 years ago. Probably won't remember half of the people now in 25 years. Such is life. People/things come and go. As I always used to tell my daughter as a kid "just be yourself and happy with that". It's the only way to be satisfied in life.

    And congrats @schwermetallschatz666

    thank you :) 

     

    i don't have family so i just hoped one day i'd find my people. maybe i still will but it seems pretty futile lol 

    11 minutes ago, SurgicalBrute said:

    I've mentioned this before, but I've found the biggest issue with social media is its tendency to just create echo chambers. While that isn't in and of itself, terrible, I think too often it creates a distorted view of the world we live in.  I mean, there's a reason the phrase "touch grass" caught on in recent years.

    things were already complicated enough for me before, i don't need the extra layer of reality to wade through ty no ty

     

  8. 1 hour ago, RelentlessOblivion said:

    I am in a similar position in that the a few friends I have I keep in touch with primarily online. The difference I suppose Is I don’t have social media any more so that’s one avenue of contact I have lost.

    is I don’t have social media any more so that’s one avenue of contact I have lost.

     

    This is definitely the most positive forum i’ve been a part of, I really do consider a few of these folks good fiend I mean friends.

    yeah i have zero local friends, so anyone i do talk to is through some form of internet. 

     

    i'm glad to hear that. i know experiences vary but i have hope. 

  9. 6 hours ago, RelentlessOblivion said:

    The Internet age has created a generation of people who can only interact from behind a screen unfortunately, gone is the art of conversation. The silver lining to that cloud is communities like this which were much more difficult to maintain going back just 20 years ago.

    Its so strange. But at least there's that I guess. the only forum i’ve ever used before was for dual sport motorcycles lol but the platform definitely centers around conversation which is more of a connection than just scrolling the feed. we've lost a lot of the significance photos bc we’re so bombarded with them. 

    5 hours ago, GoatmasterGeneral said:

    Lots of people still have depth, it's just rarely on display on social media where most people are only too happy to prove to the world that they're flaming idiots, and those who might possess some actual depth stay guarded. To me this is the beauty of a forum where you can interact with the same community of people who generally have common interests over a period of time and not just put shit out there for random strangers to like and give you empty valiidation. The internet, like anything else, is largely what you make of it. But that's easy for me to say, I'm old. I have no need for twitter or instagram or any of that shit so I simply don't partake. But I'd imagine for younger people like you it'd probably be a bit more difficult to live a life completely without the aid (and the perils) of social media. But still my character and I can both agree that we absolutely think it's possible to find people of 'substance' and have meaningful and rewarding interactions on the internet. It's not the norm, and one needs to temper their expectations accordingly. But from my experience it's certainly possible.

    Its hard because people wont even text you back anymore but they’ll answer a DM. i don't have a ton of friends so it seems necessary to keep up with however i can communicate with them. 

    id prefer to be rid of it entirely as i get very little out of it. 

  10. social media has created this reality where you either play a character of yourself (your chosen aesthetic, if you will), or you have “NPC energy”. 

     

    people used to, and probably still do somewhere idk, have more depth than that. did we really somehow lose all of that to the internet? 

  11. 13 minutes ago, RelentlessOblivion said:

    I can empathise, long term members here are familiar with a lot of the crap I went through, though none of it was religiously motivated. Anyway I hope we can offer a community where you feel welcome and comfortable.

    here’s to surviving. 

    thank you

  12. 13 minutes ago, GoatmasterGeneral said:

    Thanks for sharing your story "Difficult Metal Sweetheart." It's a pleasure to have you here and we hope you find some community and have some fun and maybe even learn something in the process. And good luck learning to play your favorite heavy metal songs on the guitar. 

    And always keep one eye peeled for an errant devil's cucumber. I hear they can be very prickly.

    Ahh google translate fails me again hahaha 

     

    thank you for your advice and guidance :) 

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